A Ghetto Moment
Ghetto moment: An exhibition of behavior that is uncharacteristic and extreme, usually driven by intense emotion – That Teowonna!
The Jenny and Mark Sanford saga continues. Last week, the Sanfords returned from a two-week European vacation. According to The State newspaper, Governor Sanford said the vacation was an opportunity for him and his family to get away from the media attention and mend their relationships. I don’t know if the trip was a success or not, but the following Saturday, Nino Brown told me that Jenny Sanford packed her and her sons’ belonging, and left the SC Governor’s mansion. Jenny released a statement saying that after careful and prayerful consideration, she and her boys are moving back to their home in Sullivan’s Island for the upcoming school year. She further stated that she would return to Columbia often to carry out the duties required of her in her role as first lady.
While the term ‘ghetto’ has a negative connotation, as a woman, I understand why Jenny Sanford moved out the way she did. I understand how emotions can get so high that you behave completely out of character. Now, there are some people who are just straight ghetto. They do jacked up stuff like that every day of the week simply because they don’t know any better. Others of us, just suffer for a 'ghetto moment'.In Jenny Sanford’s case, I can only imagine what transpired that Friday night or early that Saturday morning in which she said, “I’ve had enough! I gotta go, and I gotta go NOW!” All her money, etiquette training, education and family prestige didn’t matter at that time. She was just the wife of a philandering husband who had finally reached her limit.
She had heard of stories in which woman did crazy things like cut tires, bust car windows, even killed men. She used to think they were crazy; ghetto. At that moment, she understood.
It was a typical Saturday morning. She was doing house chores and her husband was doing yard work. When the lawn mower stalled, he left the house to run to the store to get some gas. When night fell, and her husband had not returned, she started to get worried. Panic, actually. She scouted the neighborhood. She called his mother, his brothers, his friends, the hospitals... everyone she could think of. No one had seen him; no one had heard from him. Terrified of what could have happened to her husband, she called the police to complete a missing person’s report. She went to bed, but she didn’t sleep. She and her children had a restless night. Her husband wasn’t home; their daddy wasn’t home.
So ladies, don’t automatically pass judgment on the girl who just bust the window out your son’s car. And men, let this be a lesson to you: No matter how rich, refined, holy, independent, or in love she may be, you can drive a woman to have a ghetto moment. Let’s just hope there is a heavy wooden door to protect you, or she has a friend to talk her down. I'm glad I did.
I guess Jenny has earned a nomimation for an official ghetto name. J-lo is taken. Jen lacks umph. How about Ni-Ni (Nee-NEE)? I shouldn't make light of this. Forgive me.
I will say that from a man's perspective, women have a natural tendancy for that emotional roller coaster. I remember an episode with my ex-wife. She was acting mean and standoff-ish with our company. I confronted her about it in private. In a matter of 5 minutes, she yelled at me while boiling over in anger, then started crying when she realized that she was trippin', then started laughing at the fact she was crying, then got mad again. Did I say that this happened in 5 minutes?
Now I'm not saying Ni-Ni doesn't have a reason for her ghetto moment; but I'll bet that that emotional roller coaster will be on the incline sooner or later. And maybe Ni-Ni gave us a glimpse as to why Sandford had another woman as his "soul-mate". Uh-oh...he went there. Delete Reply
thankfully she had friends that she could call on to help get all her sh*t out the house with the quickness. if i were her friend, i would have definitely suggested she hire a moving truck while the three of us would be sipping and relaxing :)
good luck to her! it's sad when kids are involved.` Delete Reply
No Mark, Your ex and NeNe are just ghetto. There is a difference. lol. Since we are friends, I know I can say that. The emotional ups and downs of women may be normal to some extent, but your ex was extreme. That is NOT what this blog was about at all. But I'm not surprised that men don't really get it. I'm talking about being pushed to the extreme because of high, uncontrollable rage or emotion, usually brought on by ya'll. Not being rude to a house guest Thanks for the comments... Since you know me very well, you knows its all about love!
Tanyetta: thanks for the support! Delete Reply
It's just something about being made a fool of or mistreated that will make you have that 'ghetto moment'. I have had a few myself. But at some undefined moment I realized my self-worth and stopped the foolishness. My favorite phrase has become - do you, without me. I've learned to keep it moving Livingston style. The blood speaks. Delete Reply
Personally speaking, I think Jenny Sandford handled the situation with her kids in mind. If she wanted to hurt her husband physically, or financially. She lost her chance. In my opinion, if she “busted him upside his head” when he admitted to having an affair, that would have been “ghetto” and I would understand. If she wanted to take him to court for a divorce on the grounds of adultery, she lost her chance when she took him back, and went on the “family vacation.” BUT, if she wanted her kids to have a “pleasant” transition from, “a happy home with a father,” to “a single parent home without the father,” then in my opinion, this is one way to do it. It was bad enough that Gov. Sandford had an affair, but to do it on Father’s Day weekend, with four boys and a wife at home?!? The boys need a stable parent in their young lives. Those boys needs to be surrounded by adults who love them and makes them feel as if they come first. They don’t need to see their mother humiliated on national TV. A long as she is holding up, the boys should be OK. Placing them in an environment where their feelings, and welfare comes first is important. We have enough “angry-kids” in the world resorting to all sorts of “bad decisions” because they feel that a parent or parents have failed them. It looks like Jenny Sandford is putting the boys feelings before her own. She needs to surround herself with close friends too. To many hired workers sell stories to the gossip magazines and etc. Those kind of publishers really don’t care how true the story is, but a source that close to the family would be to tempting for them to pass up. Governor Sandford must not have seen the movie, “Why Did I Get Married?” If he had, he would know about Rev. T. D Jakes “80-20 Theory.” This “mid-life-crisis” that some men go through can cost them their family and the respect of close friends. It won’t be easy but, I hope Governor Sandford finds a way to make his family whole again. If he doesn’t TRY, I hope Jenny, “PIMPS SLAPS HIM GHETTO STYLE FOR REAL."
HAPPY DEE-2 Delete Reply